TAG, YOU’RE IT!

As young children, we often play a game called “tag” where we run with the goal of not getting tagged. So many of us are running away from the calling on our lives because we want to avoid getting tagged by God to lead or serve the body of Christ. We always think someone else will do it, or we’ll just wait until someone else answers the call. A man named Jonah in the Bible was running away from God so he was swallowed up by a great aquatic animal in order for God to get his attention. His calling was to tell the people of Nineveh about their disobedience and that God wanted them saved. Another man named Moses ran away from God, but God called him back because he was the man called to lead God’s people out of slavery and into the promised land that God had for them. So many people in the Bible ran away from their calling until God captured their hearts. You and I are captured by God’s heart because He rescued us and gave us lives that have purpose, hope, peace and love. He created us and He knows what we can do.

We all have assignments here on the earth, and we need to complete those assignments – our callings in life. We need everyone to do their part. Imagine if we all did our part and used the gifting that God gave us? The church would be thriving and growing and many would be saved. Many of us don’t know what we are gifted with, and it usually takes serving others to determine how we are gifted.

God is preparing you little by little so He can give you more. When God wants to enlarge you, He will stretch you. No one likes to be uncomfortable, but why stay complacent? We can’t stop growing now. It doesn’t matter what age you are, you need to continually be growing and stretching beyond your limits. If you are willing to let God stretch you, change is part of the process. However, every change in your life creates a new normal, helping you avoid complacency in life until God’s next stretch for you. Learn to develop “Godfidence” by relying on God to give you confidence and help you change your perspective about yourself so you can overcome any insecurities.

What you are doing will affect the people ahead of you and the people behind you wanting to do what you do. As Colossians 1:27 stresses, “We have yet to understand what we can do in Jesus’ name, but if we allow God to work in us and through us, we’ll find out.” This is our time to arise to our full expression in Jesus name, so “TAG, you’re it!” You are the one that God has called as the answer to the problems of this world. You are made for so much more than what you think you are. You matter to God and to this generation. It is time to take your position or assignment and be obedient to what God is calling you to do. Stop looking to others to do your job; it’s your job to get it done.

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Self Care with a Side of Shame

 As simple as Instagram makes self-care seem, following through is often easier said than done.

Making time for ourselves often means saying no to others—turning down a night out, career-boosting work assignment, or phone call with a friend in need of advice. For me, setting those boundaries often feels impossible.

I’m constantly saying yes: Sure, I’ll take on that last-minute story. Yes, let’s absolutely meet for coffee. Of course I’ll mentor your sister’s friend’s daughter!

And whenever I do turn my “yes” into a “no” in the name of self-care, I feel wracked with guilt—like I’m not showing up for others or I’m wasting my time. Cue me sitting at home trying to chill in a bubble bath, but making mental lists of who or what I’m letting down.

Sounds super relaxing, right?

Turns out, I’m not alone in this kind of self-care shame.

“We are surrounded by overt and covert messages that encourage us to minimize our own needs and feel guilty when we engage in self-care,” psychotherapist Ashley Elder told Psych Central. “Think how many times a day you see some kind of reference to a woman ‘indulging,’ ‘splurging,’ or ‘sinning’ because she meets a basic need like eating food she enjoys or taking time to relax.”

So, how can we embrace self-care—without the guilt? Here, six ways to start:

1. Plan Dates With Yourself

One tactic that’s helped me own my “no” in the name of self-care: Making standing appointments with me, myself, and I.

My weekly yoga classes? They’re on my calendar, right up there with work assignments and birthday dinners. When I give self-care the same importance as all my other commitments, it not only reminds me to guard my time, but reaffirms that it’s time well spent. It’s helped me make self-care a regular part of my routine, rather than a whenever-I-can-get-it thing.

When I give self-care the same importance as all my other commitments, it not only reminds me to guard my time, but reaffirms that it’s time well spent.

2. Get Serious About Why You Feel Guilty

If your me time is plagued with guilt, you might be connecting your self-worth with your productivity.

The next time you find yourself fretting over, say, the 20 minutes you set aside to just read, grab a pen, some paper, and ask yourself why.

Do you feel like time you don’t spend working is time wasted?

Do you feel like others might deserve your time more than you do?

Write down your thoughts, then read them over—you may be able to see the links between taking time for yourself and feeling guilty about it more clearly, and seeing your thoughts written out might help you move past them.

Bonus: That time spent journalingcounts as self-care, too. A recent study found that those who regularly wrote about stressful and emotional events had better psychological and physical outcomes than those who kept their thoughts bottled up.

3. Digitally Disconnect

One major pitfall of the digital age? 24/7 reachability makes it nearly impossible to take a step back, and texts and calls from family and friends can serve as a constant reminder of what you “should” be doing instead.

The solution?

Put your phone on do-not-disturb whenever you’re engaging in a self-care activity. That way, you won’t get sucked back into your emotional web, but you won’t miss emergencies, either.

If you’re worried friends of coworkers might not know how to handle a few hours of your absence, set an Out Of Office response explaining that you’ll be offline for a few hours and can handle things when you’re back.

4. Be Honest About Your Needs—But Know You Don’t Owe an Explanation

If a pal asks why you’re suddenly saying no to happy hour or can’t pick up her packages while she’s on a work trip, tell the truth. Chances are, they’ll relate and respect your needs.

And if someone questions your self-care time, try to stand firm. Your time is your time, and taking care of yourself means you can better care for others in the future.

Your time is your time, and taking care of yourself means you can better care for others in the future.

Still feel impossible? Try emailing a response, using the formula here.

5. Offer an Alternative

If you feel like you’re constantly turning down others in the name of solo time, try responding with a “no, but…”

Suggest a different time for a hangout session or another way to help out. You could even try setting aside designated time for friends, or co-workers, in the same way you set aside time for yourself.

If you find yourself dreading or rescheduling the same appointments and catch-up drinks, though, you might want to think about tapering off that relationship—remember, preventing future burnout counts as self-care, too.

6. Find a Self-Care Crew

It’s easy to talk yourself out of taking a solo break—but, as we’ve discussed, harder to say “no” to friends. Use that truth to your advantage. Find a yoga class, meditation group, or even a similarly burnt-out friend who can take some R&R with you. Yes, you’ll be together, but you’ll get to recharge solo, too.

That accountability will help you stick to your routine, and the other class-goers will respect your inward focus, since they’re likely there for the same reasons.

Bottom line: Self-care isn’t selfish—but it can feel that way. Be kind to yourself as you learn to prioritize me time—and know you’ll be better for it.

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Self-Care with a Side of Shame

 As simple as Instagram makes self-care seem, following through is often easier said than done.

Making time for ourselves often means saying no to others—turning down a night out, career-boosting work assignment, or phone call with a friend in need of advice. For me, setting those boundaries often feels impossible.

I’m constantly saying yes: Sure, I’ll take on that last-minute story. Yes, let’s absolutely meet for coffee. Of course I’ll mentor your sister’s friend’s daughter!

And whenever I do turn my “yes” into a “no” in the name of self-care, I feel wracked with guilt—like I’m not showing up for others or I’m wasting my time. Cue me sitting at home trying to chill in a bubble bath, but making mental lists of who or what I’m letting down.

Sounds super relaxing, right?

Turns out, I’m not alone in this kind of self-care shame.

“We are surrounded by overt and covert messages that encourage us to minimize our own needs and feel guilty when we engage in self-care,” psychotherapist Ashley Elder told Psych Central. “Think how many times a day you see some kind of reference to a woman ‘indulging,’ ‘splurging,’ or ‘sinning’ because she meets a basic need like eating food she enjoys or taking time to relax.”

So, how can we embrace self-care—without the guilt? Here, six ways to start:

1. Plan Dates With Yourself

One tactic that’s helped me own my “no” in the name of self-care: Making standing appointments with me, myself, and I.

My weekly yoga classes? They’re on my calendar, right up there with work assignments and birthday dinners. When I give self-care the same importance as all my other commitments, it not only reminds me to guard my time, but reaffirms that it’s time well spent. It’s helped me make self-care a regular part of my routine, rather than a whenever-I-can-get-it thing.

When I give self-care the same importance as all my other commitments, it not only reminds me to guard my time, but reaffirms that it’s time well spent.

2. Get Serious About Why You Feel Guilty

If your me time is plagued with guilt, you might be connecting your self-worth with your productivity.

The next time you find yourself fretting over, say, the 20 minutes you set aside to just read, grab a pen, some paper, and ask yourself why.

Do you feel like time you don’t spend working is time wasted?

Do you feel like others might deserve your time more than you do?

Write down your thoughts, then read them over—you may be able to see the links between taking time for yourself and feeling guilty about it more clearly, and seeing your thoughts written out might help you move past them.

Bonus: That time spent journalingcounts as self-care, too. A recent study found that those who regularly wrote about stressful and emotional events had better psychological and physical outcomes than those who kept their thoughts bottled up.

3. Digitally Disconnect

One major pitfall of the digital age? 24/7 reachability makes it nearly impossible to take a step back, and texts and calls from family and friends can serve as a constant reminder of what you “should” be doing instead.

The solution?

Put your phone on do-not-disturb whenever you’re engaging in a self-care activity. That way, you won’t get sucked back into your emotional web, but you won’t miss emergencies, either.

If you’re worried friends of coworkers might not know how to handle a few hours of your absence, set an Out Of Office response explaining that you’ll be offline for a few hours and can handle things when you’re back.

4. Be Honest About Your Needs—But Know You Don’t Owe an Explanation

If a pal asks why you’re suddenly saying no to happy hour or can’t pick up her packages while she’s on a work trip, tell the truth. Chances are, they’ll relate and respect your needs.

And if someone questions your self-care time, try to stand firm. Your time is your time, and taking care of yourself means you can better care for others in the future.

Your time is your time, and taking care of yourself means you can better care for others in the future.

Still feel impossible? Try emailing a response, using the formula here.

5. Offer an Alternative

If you feel like you’re constantly turning down others in the name of solo time, try responding with a “no, but…”

Suggest a different time for a hangout session or another way to help out. You could even try setting aside designated time for friends, or co-workers, in the same way you set aside time for yourself.

If you find yourself dreading or rescheduling the same appointments and catch-up drinks, though, you might want to think about tapering off that relationship—remember, preventing future burnout counts as self-care, too.

6. Find a Self-Care Crew

It’s easy to talk yourself out of taking a solo break—but, as we’ve discussed, harder to say “no” to friends. Use that truth to your advantage. Find a yoga class, meditation group, or even a similarly burnt-out friend who can take some R&R with you. Yes, you’ll be together, but you’ll get to recharge solo, too.

That accountability will help you stick to your routine, and the other class-goers will respect your inward focus, since they’re likely there for the same reasons.

Bottom line: Self-care isn’t selfish—but it can feel that way. Be kind to yourself as you learn to prioritize me time—and know you’ll be better for it.

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MIND OVER MATTER

You oversleep. 💤You get a flat tire. 🚘You spill your coffee. ☕You get a parking ticket.🚓 You lose your keys. 🛵Your list of “to-do’s” is a mile long. You’re tired,😒 frustrated, 😰and a little bit hangry.😡

…I’ve been there.😎

There was a day when I woke up two hours late for my job. ⏰Don’t ask me how I managed that when I had 6 alarms set. 🤔Just when I was ONE turn away from work, I saw the lights 💡behind me.

A policeman😭

So, I pulled over and began to tear 😢 up. As the officer came up and asked me where I was headed. I looked to my right and pointed 👉towards work. I was so close. So, so close.

I almost let those emotions 👹determine my day. I was frustrated and flustered 😾at first, and I allowed my feelings to flood my mind💩. That day could have been horrible from that point on if I allowed it to be. I could’ve been moping and wallowing in frustration even longer as I explained 🙆to my boss what happened and continued to carry out all my tasks 🖥for the day.

But , I didn’t.😎

Yes, those things happened, but they didn’t define me. My attitude 🤔 allowed me to enjoy the day🌝 and smile and laugh and joke even more than usual.😂

Your mindset is what determines your day. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. 😁The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm ⏰can be fixed. The tire 🚓can be replaced. The coffee☕ can be refilled. The parking ticket 📕can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get sleep. 💤You can get some food. Maybe a Snickers to satisfy.😁

Your life is great. 😃You just have to allow it to be.

People don’t make you 😠 angry – you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you – you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you.

If your thoughts are bringing you down, You can’t be moving up.☝

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your way of thinking about it. Redirect your mindset. Remember that life is a 🎁 gift- don’t ruin the contents. Choosing positive 😁thinking provides you with confidence, vibrant health, and true beauty.👸

Your last day could be tomorrow😇 – choose to live to the fullest each day and live with the mindset you’d want to be remembered for. Remain fixed on the good. See your problems as opportunities. When you keep your face to the 🌞 sunshine you can’t see the shadows.

⏳Count your blessings

There are so many good things in your life. Look at the blue sky, ⛅watch the sunset🌘, go for a good run,🤺 have some ice cream. Be thankful for your family. 🤼Be thankful for a home. Be thankful for food. There are people worse off than you.

😇See the good

Bring out the best in people. 👭👬👪 Bring out the best😇 in situations. Don’t assume. Don’t judge. You can’t control people or circumstances, but you can control your mindset. You can think positively and be light💡 to others.

☝View setbacks as stepping stones

Don’t get frustrated 😭when things don’t go your way. God knows what He’s doing, and He’s placing the right things in your life. When something doesn’t go according to plan, trust that there’s a better one. 🌝You are being moved. Believe in that.

🙏 Pray

Pray for a positive 😁 mindset each day. Pray 🙏to recognize your blessings and see the good. Pray for others. Pray to have faith.

😁Smile

Such a simple thing. Smiles 😀are contagious, so shine those pearly whites.😁 Smile at strangers, smile at your friends, smile at your dog. It could make someone’s day.

Having the right mindset 😃will fill you with energy and peace.😇 Be a light 💡to those around you. Redirect your mind. Today is your day.
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To Be

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

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POPULARITY vs INFLUENTIAL

How✌️ is silence about important issues the same as endorsing them? What does it mean to edit 📝your words in such a way that you are part of the solution 📤and not part of the problem🛑?

Do you want to be popular👑 . . . or do you want to be influential📿?

👑Popularity and influence 📿seem similar, but they’re very different. Popularity requires you to follow the masses or tell them what they want to hear👂. But influence invites you to stand on truth apart from the crowd✌️.

At its core🎯, truth is not a what, but a who, because Jesus said He is the truth. Jesus also said that God’s Word is truth. The world🌍 loves to think🤦 of truth as fluctuating and relative, but the truth that is grounded in the person of Jesus and the Word of God never changes. In a world full of opinions, God’s truth leads us to convictions we can build our lives on.

We must be careful to discern the difference between opinions and convictions📖. Our world doesn’t need the messiness that comes with numerous opinions🤳. It needs the stability that comes with truth. Let’s not contribute to the noise that distracts and keeps us from looking to Scripture and the Spirit of truth.

Opinions 🤦are easy to make and quick to change, but hard🤳 to clean up if we’ve been careless in spreading ours around. They can become like litter that defiles both others’ lives and our own. We must carefully guard 📿our words to ensure we are part of the solution to the problems we are anointed to change.

I challenge you ☝️to edit your life and edit the words you choose to speak. Be careful about what you read📝, listen to👂, say,😆 or post📲. Do not air your family issues, or the church’s issues, for all the world to see. Yet, at the same time, don’t remain silent🛑 about them: Speak 😆to family about family issues. If someone isn’t involved in the problem or solution, don’t unnecessarily involve them. This only makes the problem bigger rather than solving it.

And, now we’ve talked it📲 over.

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YOU’VE GOTTA READ…

YOU’VE GOTTA READ📖
Th1rteen R3asons Why, Jay Asher

YOU’VE GOTTA WATCH… Th1rteen R3asons Why on Netflix
❤️

IF….

❤️You’re a parent, pastor, youth minister, counselor, educator, administrator, etc., of students ages 12-21;
❤️Your young adult has shut down, acts differently, changes in mood, behavior, etc.;
❤️You really want to know what happens in middle & high school;
❤️You know someone who has been bullied, raped, harassed, or abuses drugs/alcohol, attempted/committed suicide, deals with peer pressure, sexuality issues, etc.;
❤️You want to know why people attempt/commit suicide…

🚨 🚨WARNING 🚨 🚨
DISTURBING & THOUGHT-PROVOKING…
This book and movie series IS NOT for the faint of heart, weak minded, or IF you have struggled with any of the above crisis issues, you will need someone who can positively support and counsel you as you read/watch Th1rteen R3asons Why, Jay Asher.
❤️

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Brief Summary:
Newcomer Katherine Langford plays the role of Hannah, a young woman who takes her own life. Two weeks after her tragic death, a classmate named Clay finds a mysterious box on his porch. Inside the box are recordings made by Hannah — on whom Clay had a crush — in which she explains the 13 reasons why she chose to commit suicide. If Clay decides to listen to the recordings, he will find out if and how he made the list. This intricate and heart-wrenching tale is told through Clay and Hannah’s dual narratives.

❤️Will you read the book?📚
❤️Will you watch the movie series?
❤️Do you check your son or daughter’s bookbag?🎒
❤️Do you pay ⚠️ attention to what your child is reading, watching on TV, writing, or what video games they are playing?
❤️A MUST HAVE for all counselors, pastors, clinical psychologist, etc.

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